Setting the gay record straight
Heather Barwick was raised by two lesbian mothers, and she is now speaking out against gay marriage. The reason, though, is not hatred – she loves both her lesbian moms. The reason is simply because she’s realized that children should have the right to grow up with both a mom and a dad, and she’s not afraid to say so. In her open letter to the gay community, which you can read here, she writes “I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn’t need or want a man. Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy”. As a child of gay parents, she reveals,“Many of us are too scared to speak up and tell you about our hurt and pain, because for whatever reason it feels like you’re not listening. That you don’t want to hear. If we say we are hurting because we were raised by same-sex parents, we are either ignored or labeled a hater.”
It’s inevitable that, as a pastor, I’ll write and say things that people don’t like and that aren’t politically correct. But that’s because I follow Jesus, and Jesus was probably the most un-politically correct figure in history. He was anti-establishment, and his followers are too. He said, “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first.” (John 15:18). But we don’t oppose the establishment for the sake of it; we oppose the establishment because it’s often wrong, on many issues. Today, the establishment is wrong on gay marriage, and followers of Jesus should not be ashamed to say so.
The reason we say so, though, is not motivated by hate or intolerance (it’s in fact the people who give us these labels who are doing the very thing they’re condemning by being intolerant of us). No, the reason we speak out against homosexual marriage is the same reason we speak against extra-marital heterosexual sex and divorce as well. And that is simply because we recognize that marriage has been designed by God as the incubator for children to grow. And thus any deviation from God’s design for marriage will, by definition, be removing something that children have a right to – namely, both a mom and a dad who are committed to each other for life.
See, the thing is, marriage is not just about me and satisfying my desires. If it was, then we could change it to best suit our desires. Rather, marriage is about obeying our Creator, and recognizing that to deviate from his instructions for the sake of our desires will not only harm us, but our children and our society as well.